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postheadericon My Hero! (Stand Up for Yourself)

Work It, Girl! - Leading Your Life

 Have you ever wanted someone to stand up for you in an argument?  Do you wish that the person you care for and respect so much would treat you the way you deserve to be treated?  So often we look for someone else to defend our honor, maybe even to whisk us away -- white horse included -- from our current predicament.

This past week I met with two coaching clients looking to move into a better work environment. The first, Pam, began her “dream job” but soon found herself speechless as her employer, who had become her best friend, transformed into a verbally abusive nightmare of a boss.  Robert, the second client, did not agree with how his boss wanted to bill clients. However, since he was raised not to talk back, he reluctantly followed his boss’s orders.  A few weeks later senior leadership accused him of unethical behavior. He resigned on the spot without defending or explaining his actions.

Both Pam and Robert are smart, accomplished and strong when it comes to defending others -- especially their children. However, this was not the first time they had not defended themselves.  Indeed, they had repeatedly chosen the easiest short-term solution by staying silent.  Unfortunately, repeated short-term silence leads to long-term dissatisfaction.

Have you ever felt like it was easier to stay silent, especially when your feelings were hurt?

 

postheadericon Transform Christmas Clutter Clearing Into Community Service

Life Is Good - Debbie Bowie's Feng Shui

Cards and Decorations Can Benefit Nursing Homes

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In response to my recent post about Christmas clutter clearing, one reader shared two great ideas for clutter clearing that can help nursing home residents have a happier holiday. She gave me permission to share her ideas with you.

  1. Instead of recycling or tossing extra unused Christmas cards, offer them to the residents of a local nursing home to save them the expense and the hassle of buying cards. You might even consider including stamps with the cards to make it easy to write a note and mail the card. Nursing
 

postheadericon Fortune Cookie Forecast

Life Is Good - Vickie Griffith's BreakThrough
“It sucks right now!” Martha said with despair in her voice. I just lost my job; my husband’s salary barely covers the necessary expenses. Our daughter needs money for a science project. Our son needs a cavity filled. I wrecked my car. The dog is sick and my credit cards are at their limit.
When life hits a barrier it feels like we will be stuck there forever.  It is hard to imagine that life could get any better. Yet is does and always will. The passage from the Bible “This too shall pass.”, reminds us that it will get better.  The state of our lives right now does not reflect what will happen in the future.
We can influence our future experience by feeling grateful for what we have right now. Instead on focusing on what is happening and how horrible it is, pay attention to what is wonderful in your life. Notice, appreciate and express gratitude.
It is not always easy. Doubt sneaks in especially after several interviews with no offers or the pesky calls from the creditors. We grasp at fortune cookie forecasts or other peoples misfortune to feel better. However, focusing on even the littlest of joys in our lives shifts the forecast of the future to our benefit.
Your circumstances right now does not reflect the beautiful future you desire. Put your attention on the health of your children, the taste of the peanut butter and jelly sandwich you are eating or the beauty of the sky. Feel the gratitude for these experiences in your life right now regardless of what is going on around you.
The message in your fortune cookie reads, “Today will pass. You can live this day in desperation or appreciation. One gives you misery the other wonder.”
Vickie Griffith
BreakThrough!
Moving Women From Hurt to Healing
Speaker (NSP), Certified Hypnotist, EFT Practitioner
www.break-through.org
804-677-1174
 

postheadericon Leading Your Life: The Simple Power of No

Work It, Girl! - Leading Your Life

Have you ever noticed yourself agreeing to things you don’t want to do? Do you find yourself making personal promises or taking on projects or tasks that don’t align with your schedule, skills or goals? “No” is a word that many of us have a hard time saying. It is also a word that successful people have mastered! Which group do you fall into?

You may say “Rubbish! I have a loving family and am successful in my work even if I can’t always say no.”  The thing is, if you are not able to confidently allow “no” to roll off your tongue in every situation, then someone else is determining how you spend your time and the direction in which you focus your energy. Ultimately, this means other people are in control of your life.

 

postheadericon Feng Shui Thoughts to Warm Your Winter Landscapes

Life Is Good - Debbie Bowie's Feng Shui

Use Color to Cope With the Gray Days of Winter

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If you live in states with deciduous trees, have you noticed how gray and stark the landscape has gotten since the leaves have fallen from the trees? I enjoy scanning the landscape when I walk Jake and Oz, my beloved pups, every morning.

Recently I noticed that the grayness was broken here and there by a pop of bright red and green from bows on wreaths and other Christmas decorations. It occurred to me that we begin to decorate for the holidays right after the leaves fall from the trees. The greens of the leaves are first replaced by shades of yellow, red and gold. Then when nature can no longer provide the energy of color, we pull out our bright lights and red bows. What a wonderful transition to winter!

Is it any wonder that the early days of December seem so bleak?Then, when we pack away our decorations after the holidays, we systematically remove the color from the landscape. Little do we know, but that energy was feeding us, nurturing us, giving us visual pops of joy. When we remove them we are left a primarily gray landscape and the white skies of winter. With the exception of berries on bushes and shrubs and an occasional cardinal, it’s difficult to find a pop of bright energizing color anywhere in the landscape.

Here are some suggestions for adding color to your outer world:

  • add a colorful flag at your front door
  • add a wreath with some red accents to your front door
  • add doormats at your front and back doors that have colorful designs

 
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