The Role of Mom is Not for Sissies!

During the clutter clearing process I learn many things about the realities of my clients’ lives. For example, I’ve not had children, but I know so much about the reality of raising children and I am able to help moms because they so readily share the challenges of their reality. 

Most recently I was working with a mother of three children. She told me that she often feels overwhelmed. She then related a story about how she had planned to attend a lecture in an area of great interest to her. That particular day she first attended her son’s soccer game, knowing that attending the game would make her late for the lecture. Then she got a call from her youngest child who was distraught that her pet had just died. Her daughter was in tears and pleaded with her to come and be with her. 

Over and over again I’ve heard from moms that almost on a daily basis they are faced with tough choices like the one my client faced. Do I choose to do what will feed me? And, by the way I’m starving. Or, do I take care of my child? What is the best thing for me? What is the best thing for the child? What if what’s best for me isn’t what’s best for the child?

 

My client chose to go to her daughter, help her bury the pet and spend the evening with her. She, of course, had to cancel out of the lecture at the last minute, which made her feel bad for the speaker. And, at the end of the evening her own energy was a little more depleted. She told me, “The next day all I wanted to do was crawl in bed. And, I felt sad.”

Sad. Why was she sad? One more time she chose to do “the right thing” for her child. And, it was the right thing especially given the age of her child. But, one more time she had to give up something that would have fed her, would have given her social time with adults, would have given her a break from her world of “have tos”, the world of motherhood.

Be a good mom. . . or. . . . take care of myself? Sometimes there are two right answers, and you must choose just one of them. Scott Peck in The Road Less Traveled writes, “Life is hard.” No kidding! Mothers have to be master jugglers. And, they are constantly faced with difficult choices with the well being of young souls in the palm of their hand. The role of mom is not for sissies!

Happy Mother’s Day!

 

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